Learning to Tolerate Comfort

I was reading Kylie’s blog the other day. This particular line caught my eye: “Sink into comfort. See how much you can stand.” I was nodding as I was reading thinking, “Wow. that's so true and that's something I want to write about. “ Then I re-read it and realized it actually said 'Sink into DIScomfort..." Giggling at my ...

The Importance of a Really Good Wallow

I've noticed a theme with a few of my clients lately – a theme of being afraid to really feel whatever is going on for them. The actual feelings and the situations that are bringing them up are widely varied. The commonality lies in the fear that if they truly feel the feelings, they will be overwhelmed ...

A Most Fascinating Question

A friend recently stumped me with what is possibly the most fascinating question in the world: “What captivated you when you were 9? What was it that you spent every spare minute of your unstructured time doing?” The concept behind the question is that that thing we did with our free time when we were approximately 9 ...

My Headache Story

Note: I initially shared a version of following post on my About Page. I removed it a short while later but am now feeling called to share it here. My ongoing struggle with headaches is still really difficult for me to talk about. I hope that through sharing a bit of my story here, those ...

Setting Seasonal Intents

It's that time again - the time of year when light and dark are balanced - for a moment at least. For me this means it is time to review my past Seasonal (90-Day) Intents and set new ones for the next season - Spring! It's kind of a 90-Day To-Do list - except that once it's ...

Learning to Fail Magnificently

Today, I want to introduce a concept that is so big, so awesome, so potentially transformational, that I’m practically paralyzed just thinking about it. You see, I don't have the words to convey such an important concept. No matter how I turn it around in my mind, my words fall short. I fail. Yet, here I am, about ...

Noticings on Flow (and the lack thereof)

Flow. That magical quality that allows everything to happen with such ease and grace when present. That magical quality that leads to all sorts of unpleasantness and potential embarrassment when absent. Flow. Something I want to experience more of in my life. And, something I've been intentionally focusing on for the past 2 weeks as part of my ...

The Art of Relaxed Suffering

It's about 5 years ago. I'm in my Xin Yi (an internal martial art) class. We are in the Bow and Arrow Stance which is similar to yoga's warrior 1 pose - or a modified lunge. The majority of our weight is centered over our front foot. We've been in this stance for 5-10 minutes already, testing ...

Days 1-7 of the 40-Day Shiva Nata Expedition (plus practice variations)

A week! Done. Already. It's going so freaking fast! First, the recap of this past week: As you may recall from the initial 40-Day Challenge post, Week 1 was all about crisp, precise movements (in Phase 4). And, about noticing whether or not I was able to remain relaxed while practicing clear, exact movements. The most interesting thing ...

The 40-Day Shiva Nata Challenge

Confession: I've been seriously neglecting my Shiva Nata practice since the beginning of the year. I want to get back on track. Badly. My solution: A 40-Day Shiva Nata Challenge. If you want to deepen your personal practice (Shiva Nata or something else entirely) or would just like some support, I'd love to have you join me. The ...